About So-Called Friendship

LV writes, quite sad... but they are unfortunately true. Hope this writing could inspire us... Our poor-quality friendship.

Friends R'nt real; They're Juz a State of Mind
The goodness of time has shown me which can be fake and which ones can be real. For long period of time we human subconsciously always expect mere devotion and loyalty from the people we care about from people we believe that they are Friends. We started to entitle them the position 'Friends' when we got along pretty well, when we saw lots common grounds, when we had similar interests, all those good things called similar, same and common things. We then forget that it's not the limit of a friendship, only last when it is good, but when it is bad or things get bad, then it simply fades away. Having gone through some experiences I've come to think that friends are not real. Some people can be friends when they want to and simply withdraw when it's too tough.One friend always came to me talking about the same problem many times, I try to help him as best as I can, sometimes it just can be annoying when he seems doesnt wanna listen, but hey, they maybe just wanna be listened to and that's it, that's all that I could give to him,listening to him.Cause when someone comes to you to talk about their problem, it means whether u like it or not, he/she lays his/her trust on you for that moment and u just simply lend your ears and perhaps your heart as well. This is just one example, I've just seen worse cases where some friends bailed out when they see their friends is having a tough time, they could've helped but they are so bloody selfish and self-centered that they miss it and simply ignore. And yet they declared best friends forever before. On the other hand, I've also seen some cases where these people are not even friends, few of them are even strangers but they can touch each other's hearts in a nick of time. I guess what I am trying to say here is that the title "Friends" don't belong to the physical state but more to the state of mind as Friends are not real, it's only state of mind or the deeds its self.

FRIENDSHIP VS FRIENDSHIT ~
In one fine night, I was hanging out with my two good friends, Chattering from nonsense to the what-makes-sense.One of them, just call Maria, said " We hardly hang out with Jane again since she got married and have had a baby now. We seems far away now and we hardly talk to each other anymore about things..." (F.Y.I: Maria, Jane and the other girl, Diane were working in the same office). There it was, some of the remarks about Jane from Maria, which I concluded that they’re not that close anymore since Jane got married and had a baby whilst Maria and Diane are single. I was struck by Maria's comment. She was saying that she's not close to Jane anymore just because Jane's now married and had a baby. Then I related it to Jane's story long way before, saying that Maria had changed somehow, Maria kinda stopped being good friends anymore with Jane right after Jane got married. As I see it,the changes happened to both; To Jane who's simply got married and To Maria who's simply either consciously/subconsciously reacted to that. Regardless any particular reason that was for Maria, still I ponder if one can be still good friend to another though he/she has passed a phase to a different phase in his/her life.
It’s kind of bizarre if you take a really deep look at it. Ideally good friends are remain good friends no matter what but then unfortunately these days in this world there's no such thing as 'No-matter-What" anymore. We live in day-to-day choices mostly depending on what comfort us and if that’s gonna bring us good or not, it surely makes sense but when it comes to a friendship, shouldn’t we think beyond that? If one friend has gone to a different phase that creates the unwanted gap to the other friends, do they have to stop being good friends?. Shouldn’t they make efforts to understand and accept the changes and remain good friends?
Sadly, most people live in the “similar-Interest-World”. When the interest including situation and condition aren’t the same anymore then one would leave looking for the people who has similar interest or in the similar situation and condition. Differences seem set them apart and they hardly make efforts to bridge it. We all would pass different stages in life, we all gradually change from time to time, different state of mind and phases. And even after going through all that and you still can see few familiar faces along the way being loyal with your friendship regardless changes happened, GOOD FRIENDS they are indeed and the FRIENDSHIP you had definitely remain FRIENDSHIP and doesn’t have to turn out to be a friendshit.
Inspired by one of my best friend's true story